Back to Norway. With My Stuff.

So, it’s been 5 weeks since my last blog post. How are you guys? I missed you.

Should we be a little awkward around each other? No. Let’s just dive right back in.

As some of you know, I have been to Toronto to visit family and friends, I have been to Mexico to visit a community of people whom I see on an annual visit, and then I have been back to Toronto (to pack the last of my worldly belongings for shipment to Norway) and I am now “home”.

And yes, faithful readers, notice the use of the word “home”. This is a big and significant step for me. It did actually feel like I was coming home this time. I wouldn’t say that I feel completely “at home” here yet. It is still a strange land in many ways and I am still slogging away at my Norwegian and trying to understand the Norwegian ways, but coming back here did feel like it’s the place I now call home. (Of course, I still call Canada and South Africa home too, but maybe I am just destined to have many homes. Isn’t that perhaps just the way of the ex-pat?)

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Going home from home to home. What?

I feel like I have so many things to tell you. So many, in fact, that I have struggled to write anything. So this article will be a bit weird. Think of it as a tasting menu (at your favourite restaurant) rather than one big main course (at your other favourite restaurant). Allow me to give you some highlights and musings of my time away, if you will. I will be back to my “regular self” soon enough.

Toronto:

On my first morning in Toronto, I strolled out the corner coffee shop for a latte. I have grown unaccustomed to getting lattes in Norway because they are so pricey and I feel like a silly North American when I order them. I know that makes no sense, but it’s just me. Walking to the cafe, I realized I was practicing my order in my head (as I would do in Oslo). And then I clued in: “Oh! Wait!! I can order in English!”. Of course I can order in English in Oslo too, but I try not to. (I always hear my teachers voice in my head: “Speak Norwegian whenever you can!”). But lo and behold, I was in Canada land and English it is!

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3 great joys of being home: my dad, steak and bbq.

So, I ordered my latte. And quite possibly used as many words as I could to get the job done. It just felt so good! I felt so smart and fluent and expressive! There were 3 staff and I spoke to everyone one of them. I might also have spoken to every other customer in the cafe. Even the tiny dogs.

The weeks I spent in TO (or apparently it’s now called “The 6ix”. I don’t even know what that means), were basically a repeat of this first morning: 1. Drink expensive coffees. 2. Talk as much as possible.

I so loved my time with my family and friends. It was almost a mad panic to pack in as much visit time and chat time as possible. I was on a big “soak it all in” program. Like a sponge. A very, very chatty sponge.

Friends and family with whom I am in regular contact didn’t need so much of the lowdown about Norway so we jumped right back into old familiarity and closeness. You know that feeling of being with people who’ve known you (seemingly and sometimes literally) forever? That’s heaven, isn’t it? That feeling of being known and knowing someone so well that you just pick up right from where you left off.

I cried (again) saying goodbye to friends and family. When I said goodbye to my dad, I was okay until the final hug. And then a sob came from somewhere so deep down that it was actually painful. I looked up to see tears welling in my dad’s eyes too. If there’s one thing that gets me, it’s seeing my dad upset. He said to the driver “my daughter is moving to another country… she’s leaving today…”. That was the clincher. I cried all the way to the airport and the limo driver took it as his personal mission to coach me through the entire experience. He was lovely. Totally weird, but lovely.

Mexico:

First of all let me explain that most Mexican people don’t speak Norwegian. I think I have thoroughly tested that hypothesis. They really do prefer that you speak Spanish.

As I suspected, my once (not too terrible) abilities in Spanish have been completely erased from my brain to make room for my new Norsk. I thought I would be able to recall a little bit but the first day in the market I said “takk” and “unnsklyd” about a hundred times. A stroppy young Mexican teen actually remarked (when I was speaking English) that I really “should have learned the basics” before coming to Mexico. I didn’t know whether to punch him or cry. He had a point, but it was way beyond my abilities to explain that I did once know lots of Spanish but my brain had chosen to replace it with Norwegian… and, hey buddy!… I also speak French!!! (He was long gone by the time I thought all this through).

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These are “flores” not “blomster”. Please.

The community of friends I was meeting with come from all over the world (mostly the US) and are people I know to varying degrees – however, we are very connected by the work we do. I was amazed at the interest in my my life in Norway. Just so you know (if you don’t get out of Norway much) people are very intrigued by this place! It still occurs to me that there is a bit of a utopian view of the Nordics (especially from North Americans) and I admittedly shared it before moving here too. There are, of course, so many fantastic things about living in Norway, but it is not utopia. We too deal with sexism, racism, xenophobia (and all those non-tasty things) but we are outwardly a very homogenous, “liberal” group of people. (Please notice my use of “we”… now including myself as a Norwegian).

So, in talking about life in Norway (with friends abroad), I try to paint a fairly balanced picture. My basic talking points are usually as follows: the country itself (the landscape) is spectacular. Oslo is a nice city and is very walkable and small – which I like. I am still learning Norwegian and it’s hard because I speak too much English with my husband (pro-tip: always blame the husband for speaking English too well). And, lastly, I miss small talk and my friends and family. Oh, and… I have one friend.

The last point usually garners enough “awwwwws” and sympathy to make me feel really good. Truth be told, I do have more than one friend, through my husband. But I only have one friend that I made all on my own. Leaving Mexico, I can’t tell you how many people said, “good luck on getting another friend!”. Ah. Yes. A strange thing to hear after 40 years on this planet. But we can all relate to some degree, can’t we? (Please say yes).

“Homeward” Bound:

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A friend of mine did ask if my stuff was being driven to Norway. I still love her though.

The final step of my North American journey was to empty my storage locker and ship everything to Norway. I can’t tell you how good it will feel to have my “things” with me. I have only had my clothes for the last 6 months and now, as we get ready to move to our new house, I am so excited to have my furniture and other random items. I am sure I will open boxes and wonder why I ever thought I needed to ship certain things across the sea – but it’s my stuff, and one’s stuff is important when making a new home. Most of it has been in storage for a while so it’s going to be a bit like Christmas.(Minus the pinnekjøtt and snow… but there might be some Akevitt just for unpacking encouragement, of course.)

And finally, I was on my way back home. 4 weeks had passed in a flash.

I sat beside a couple of American ladies on the Icelandic Air flight from Toronto to Reykjavic. And I am sorry to say it, American friends, but these ladies didn’t do any favours for your international reputation. They had only booked through Iceland because it was the cheapest (fair enough) and were on their way to tour the Lake District in England. The comments were as follows, (as we came in to land):

“Wow. So this is Iceland? Doesn’t look great.”

“No. It looks boring. Is that farmland? It looks so marshy.”

“What language do they speak? French?”

(Here I couldn’t resist and had to interject:)

“No. They speak Icelandic”.

(Several seconds of silence).

“Oh. That sounds weird.”

And all of a sudden, I was fine with leaving North America and heading to my new homeland – glad for the experience of something so unique and new. Glad for the privilege of getting to know another beautiful country. Glad that I don’t think of other countries as boring. Thanks ladies.

And lastly, thanks Norway for my big coming home party on May 17.

Oh wait. What?

Just kidding. I was very excited to be here for my first ever “syttende mai” (Constitution Day). The Norwegians really know how to throw a party and they look good doing it. I look forward to many Mays. I may even get a bunad.

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25 thoughts

  1. Welcome home Jill 🙂
    I have missed your blogg while you were gone!
    I was just wondering if you have visited any of our smaller towns here in Norway? The people there are much nicer than the city folks. And they are usually very easy to get to know. You should also visit Trondheim, it’s a great city and maybe you could write a blog about your visit there? Keep up the good work 🙂

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    1. Thanks Hege! I would to visit Trondheim. My husband actually has family there so we for sure will one day! 🙂 We have just moved out of Oslo to a little town about 40 mins south and I love it already! Everyone is so friendly and I am chatting with everyone. Thanks for following my stories! 🙂

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  2. Snoops- I love your stories as I can actually picture you doing and saying everything which makes me feel close to you. Poor Nev! I can see him too, tearing up but know how happy he is for you and the life you have built in Noway.
    Love you bunches my friend.
    PS-Can’t wait for the next story! And I pray to the “gods” that you’ve done something really classic and perhaps a little embarrassing; please don’t let me down;) xoxoxo

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    1. Hehe… I haven’t been too embarrassing lately but I’m moving next week to a small town so there will be plenty of opportunities! I’m so glad you are reading my stories so you can see what’s going on over here. And you can visit any time!! xo

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  3. Aah Jill, I had a lump in my throat reading the part with you and your Dad in the taxi. So so sad, and I’m sure will never get easier. Wonderful though to be so “invested” in your new home. I take my hat off to you xxx

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  4. Thank you so much for your wonderful insights on leaving your old country with family and friends to travel to a whole new life. Your blog is written so amusingly and takes me right back to when I left Australia (though I’m from Lesotho originally) to live with my Norwegian husband (whom I’d met in Botswana) and his family. I, too, used to do a lot of ‘practising in my head’ before ordering in shops. Good luck with everything!

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  5. Hi Jill! Great post (as usual). Just a comment on thinking of Norway as “home” now. Have you given any thought to considering yourself an immigrant, rather than an expat, to Norway?

    I find it interesting how the two terms are the same in theory (by definition), but are applied to very different groups in practice.

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    1. Hi Andrea. Great comment. I was actually thinking about that the other day. I think I’ve always said “ex pat” because Canada was still “home”. But in Canada I called myself an “immigrant” because I was born in South Africa. Maybe soon I’ll switch to being an immigrant here too. 🙂

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  6. Velkommen hjem 🙂 Good to have you back, missed your writings. Hope your trip was as awesome as it sounds 😀 And I know you can’t anser this, but I need to air this question: Why on earth would they speak French on Iceland? It’s never, ever been a French colony… *shakes head*
    Hoping you’ll write about your 17th of May soon, I’m curious to see what it’s like for someone who’s not grown up with it ^.^

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    1. Hi Tonje. Nice to hear from you again. And thanks! Ya it’s bizarre. Some Americans think any foreign language is French I guess 😉 I would I like to write more about May 17. It was impressive and needs more time to digest and then write about – to do it justice! 🙂

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  7. Welcome home! I’m curious, was it expensive to have your stuff shipped over? How did that work, will it go by boat and catch up with you later or did it come via plane? I looked into it a bit before I moved but I didn’t have much luck finding a good deal.

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    1. Hey there 🙂 thanks! It’s not cheap but certainly better than having to buy it all new. It’ll be about $4000 (for the packing into a truck and then shipping). I have a few big pieces of furniture and about 18 boxes. Plus a bike and some other smaller pieces. It takes about 18 days by sea. And then I’ll have to pay for movers at this end. Hope that helps!!

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      1. Hi Jill!

        I love your blog so much! You’ve really helped me understand what to expect as my family and I prepare to move from Canada to Norway (Bergen) in September. Right now I’m sorting out the daunting task of shipping our belongings over. I’m wondering if you have any suggestions for a good moving company to use? I read somewhere that you have to have all of your items inventoried beforehand for customs — did you encounter that? Our move is slightly complicated by the fact that we are moving from Yellowknife, NWT, but I’m hoping there’s still a way to ship it all door-to-door. Thanks in advance for your help and thanks, as always, for your hilarious insights!

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      2. Hi! Thanks for reading. So glad you are enjoying my stories and they are helpful. Yes, you do have to have your items inventoried – like “pots and pans” or “clothing” for example 🙂 I am not sure who you need to contact to move from NWT. The company I used works in Toronto (and the stuff is shipped from Halifax). You can always email me at norwaytimes2016@gmail.com and I can try to help more. Good luck with the move!!

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  8. As we waited for our Norwegian Airlines flight back to Boston on syttente mai evening, i happened to sit next to an American couple (as you know, my husband and i are “an American couple)…my norsk flag stood proudly out of my backpack. The fellow asked me….who’s country’s flag is that? “Seriously?”, said i. He excused himself by the fact that they were simply stopping in Oslo for an hour between flights from Ireland. “Oh, well that explains it.” I explained how it was the biggest day next to Christmas and the most wonderful celebration…Waste of breath…but we flew on back to the U.S.A. anyway… Likke til in your wonderful new home!

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    1. Hi Carol! I just had a visit with Susannah today. I hear you had a great time. Such a great story!! And apologies for criticizing “your people”. Hehe. Looking forward to seeing you back here.

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  9. Jill, the chatty sponge thing made my day! I realized that each time I go back to Italy eventi for a couple of days, I lose my voice because I am no longer used to talk as much as I dic, can you imagine? Oh wait, of course you can imagine 🙂
    PS. My dad is upset too whenever I leave (and I am only going to live in Oslo for 3 years, not for good), and that’s the really the crappy part of this, making him sad

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    1. Hi Sara! Yes, I feel like I talked non stop for 4 weeks. 🙂 Leaving my dad is so hard each time. Even when we were hanging out, I would look at him and get such a lump in my throat. It’s hard at this stage in life. But good news – he’s coming to visit in August!

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  10. Welcome back, and thanks for yet another great, thoughtful read. TESTIFY about the weirdness/sadness of trying to make new friends at this age–my job entails moving to new countries every couple of years and it is rough. May you soon be flush with many resplendent new BFFs. Lykke til.
    P.S. – I feel compelled to apologize on behalf of my fellow countrypeople for your unfortunate planemates. Sigh.

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    1. Haha! No need to apologize. Canadians can be just as bad (almost) 😉 Thanks for reading and sending your comment. It’s always so nice to know people can relate. I can’t even imagine moving every couple years! You are brave. 🙂

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  11. Thank you for sharing your insights and feelings. I love the way you write – light, intelligent and self-humoured ( not sure I can say so))). Quite few experiences of mine are so similar to those you described! Your positive view on Norway is so personally supporting to me. I have just started packing up for moving soon and I so much understand your tears when leaving Canada. Good luck to you and don’t stop writing!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and for your comment, Svetlana. I am so glad you can relate and it is so nice to have your encouragement. I hope you have a good move!

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